Women just don't get it?

Women....we are unique from men in both minds and physics.
Of all the topics that differentiate a typical woman and man...the ever famous is "sex".

There are conflicting opinions when it comes to many other topics, but when it comes to women and sex, or men and sex...it has been surpirisngly consistent. Both men and women tends to agree in a round table discussion.

Women (generally) equates sex to love.
Men (generally too) doesnt't equate sex to love.

So we aren't gonna even go there, as this is a mutual understanding already.
But what frustrates me to see, is that why women can't moved on as easily as men? You know men doesn't equates sex with love, and when you get mixed signals that there is no love, then move on. Why torment yourself over the thoughts of why he's behaving in such manner, why he led you on, what's lacking in you and why aren't you good enough? We all know by now, it doesn't has to be love, so stop beating yourself. Problem is not with you...nor with the men. They are just that way. Call them bastards all you want, but that doesn't change the fact. They can be intimate one day and cold another day.

It is rare but I believe still in existence, men who accounts for their act. Put the geeky and the nerdy aside, if you do find one, don't go harping one someone whom you can't get i.e. the type as mentioned above.

I've been told that men has evolved somewhat into a someone who's bad in direction, lack of sense of responsibility, bad time management and planning...because of some women's controlling and domineering nature. Whether that is meant as a joke, I'm not certain because it comes from my joker boyfriend when we were having some petty talks.

But having said that, my point is women can evolved too. After being hurt and let down so many times, don't call a woman a bitch if she can now stop equating sex to love, and just enjoy the moments. Hence more and more women cheats and wives having affair. Why are men so surprised of this "evolution"? It's just a matter of mind conditioning and one too many lessons learnt.

Do we really need a companion in life?

This blog's title might leave many of my friends who are reading this, with curiosity. Worry not. I'm just posting a question most of you could have asked or the right question would have been is "he/she be the one?".

So do we really need a companion in life? Someone we can go home to? But also someone who nags and in an extend controls the way we live our life?

I was born and raised in an environment full of control and restrictions. Being the only child, I'm naturally my mum n dad's focus and needless to say control. But I have to say, I'm rebellious by nature...I'd just do the opposite all the time. I'm not proud of that fact, but I have always have the urge in me to break loose. But until this very day, I still love my parents alot and being love alot in return too. Unlike the most of the only child i knew, I moved out and stayed on my own as early as 18 (ever since college years) and that was when I started staying on my own until this very day. Having said that, there was no occasions I've ever let my parents down nor let them worried sick. I think I've surprised them a great deal, in a positive way.

Bottom line is, freedom has always been something I cherished. I've great friends around me, friends whom I can hang out day in day out, weekends, weekdays (although weekdays is bogged down enough with work). Amazing trustable friends I can share details of my life with. I've hardly have my own spare time to do what I like, alone. So do I need a companion...a companion in life?

Many guy friends I know, think the same. Many citing reasons like they don't wish to take the next step because they are afraid their own space will be compromised. And the trend in these guys, are that they have been single for too long and probably have tasted the sweetness of "freedom".

My take, you can have all the best buddies in the world, parents, sibblings etc...but nothing comes close to the experience of having some you can go home to and just pour everything out to him/her. When you can just let your guts down...let your anguish out and he/she still understands. When you can feel the comfort and care that can possibly last very long. Longer and beyond what our parents can offer, our sibblings can render and while our friends still call us for happy hour/party. And for that selfish reasons, yes we all need a life companion.

And if one can feel that way with another person, who was once totally unrelated, once a complete stranger...then high chances are, you have found the one.

They are beautiful people...or so it seems

This post is unintended. I'm just waiting for the bathroom to take a warm bath. But my kind beautiful, gonna be ex-housemate is currently in there...hope she won't be too long.

Speaking of beautiful people...it still amazes me how some people can dress-up so prettily outside, smells great too, adorn herself with only satin pajamas, lacy undergarments etc...but it only takes someone who lives with them to realise all these are just superficial.

Such beautiful person (which convincingly is based on my description above) you can hardly tell that beneath those pleasant looks :
- lies a pile of laundry forever lying in the bathroom,
- untidied bed every single morning (with bedroom doors wide open which also means no sense of embarassment of her untidiness),
- entire maids room hogged by her piles and piles of shoes and countless luggages,
- cooking that leaves stains, oil and grease behind the table top,
- bras and undies hanging indiscretely,
- numerous pairs of only her heels left unarranged right at the doorstep (making it such an irritation to step into the house...and the list goes on.

So much for physical beauty. Too bad, one will never know until you really live in with such a beauty.

A metaphor worth sharing...

In life we often wonder or ask WHY bad things happen to us, why we have to go through heartaches and dissapointments, why people changed, why people don't change, why are we treated unfairly, why are we being taken for granted or taken advantage of. All the many WHYs.

No one genius has an answer to that. But having been through hell and out numerous times(mostly from the aspects of personal relationships), I could probably say there are reasons why things don't happened as we wished for them to happen.

So don't beat yourself up if you have been led on, shortchanged, cheated or unjustly treated. This is probably nature's best way to teach us life lesson in recognising the right person that comes along, or cherish the good things in life. How else can one really acknowledged the goodness in life and value every drop of it, if he/she has not seen the worst or even come close?

A friend spontenously shared a metaphor with me today, and it makes complete sense.

"You light up a fire. It was really pretty. A sight to behold. You love it! You want it to last, forever if possible. You wanted to touch it, but each time you get burnt and blisters formed. So what do you do?"

For many (including myself was guilty as charged), will keep lighting the fire and try touching it time and again, hoping one day we will not get burnt. When we gave up trying to touch the fire, we tend to light it up and look at it still harboring hopes. Foolish as it sounds.

So the friend said, why not look elsewhere and start appreciating other beauties around you. Look at the rain or the sunshine that have their own beauties. They deserve to be appreciated more than the fire you lighted up that's untouchable and can never make you happy.

My take...we have a choice, to either emerge as a victor or victim in any given situation. I choose to be happy ;)

Avatar...what's the hype?

Before there was a big hype about Avatar, especially the 3D version...I was one reluctant friend who was asked to go watch Avatar...geez another sci-fi movie.

Then comes this hype and everywhere people's like talking about how Avatar was an idea conceived many many years ago but coz of technology limitations they can't produce it...bla bla blaa...so what the heck, i'll watch it. Provided it must be in 3D...i'm a sucker for 3Ds.

So here I am, a couple of hours after Avatar. Well...it's very original (apart from the fact that I can't help relating to The Matrix where one's in another dimension guided only by the power of mind). I'm impressed by the technologies, but not so much of the storyline. Pretty predictable, saving mother-nature of another planet so on and so forth, with some love touches added here and there.
3-hours is pretty long to put me through a 3D movie with that heavy specs on.

Gimme another 3 hours, I'd still prefer LOTR. But it's a brand new experience in movie watching I'd say.

Popping the cherry

My first time Blogging. This is something that I've wanted to do for the longest time, but never get to it. Procrastination we call that.

Blogging...generally defined as putting our thoughts and opinions into words...well in a more sophisticated mode of course. Else what's the difference btwn bloggers and columnists.

A new chapter...or is it so?
For popping the cherry of blogging...yes it is.
But for our day to day life...we shall see.